God Bless all of you  / Matthias Duoos (Nikki's Friend )
My heart and prayers go out to all of you who was a good friend, a good relative, a good aquaintance, and especially to the Haerling Family.  The Haerling family is an amazing family filled with amazing people and friends to all.  I pray that God will continue to bless all of you in the same way that you all have blessed Patricia with your love.  And that you will all feel her love upon you at all times.  Close

Love and prayers  / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates (connected by angels )
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Thinking of you Always!  / Michele Fancher (Haerling) (Sister)
Dearest Tricia - There is a lot of pain in our hearts from losing you, and I don't think that that will ever go away.  Sometimes it is easier than others, knowing that you are in a better place and looking over us - yet, then there are times when it is hard to pull it together.  Knowing you should be in your senior year, 18 years old, and out having fun with your friends - doing the wild and silly things they are doing makes it soooooooo hard.  Knowing that we should be going to your graduation, your volleyball game, and your activities is what tugs at my heart.  Our cousins are growing up so fast, and I try to imagine what you would be looking like as an 18 year old woman. I  know you would be so beautiful, and still have that capturing smile. 

I miss your laugh, your silliness, your jokes.  I miss you.  I wish you could have known Brett, and I wish you could have been part of the wedding.  You really were a BIG part of the wedding - but it isn't the same to not physically have you here.  Times are changing, lives are changing, people are changing, and yet we go on with you in your hearts and in our prayers and thoughts.  You are never forgotten and always loved.  I can't wait to see you again - and hear your voice and see your smile.  I miss you ... we all miss you ... and love you ever so much.

Forever Your Big Sis -

Michele Close

we all miss you.  / Mara Landrum (friend)
last Saturday was my nephew's memorial. i went to brewster to pick up a friend so she could come. when i was on my way home after i took her back home, i took a detour. instead of turning left at Leah Junction, i went right.

8 Miles after i turned was where God brought you home.
everyone i lost was on my mind that day.
i was extremely hard on me driving home that day because i couldn't stop crying.

I had a volleyball i was going to put on your memorial but i didn't bring it with me cause visiting your memorial was a last minute thing, so instead i put something else out there.

losing my nephew taught me that you can love something that is unborn and unable to take a breath a birth.
you taught me that even though your up in heaven, that you can still miss someone just as much as when you first heard the news.

R.I.P. Tricia. we all love and miss you very much! Close

When does time start to heal the pain?  / Jennifer Collins (Sister)
Each and every day I wake and think of you and your smiling face, your goofy laugh, and those eyes filled with adventure.  I see you laughing and making jokes.  It's funny that people say only time will heal the pain of loosing you.  That might be true, but they don't tell you how to get out of bed each day and to live every day as you watch the world keep turning without you in it.  I watch as your friends and cousins get older, graduate and begin their lives.  It makes me happy to see them succeed, yet sad to not know what it would be like if you were still part of our every day lives.  I love you very much and know that you are still very much part of my everyday life. Missing you always, Hugs and Kisses! Love you! Close

God Bless  / Matthias Duoos (Nikki's Friend )
I don't know why I felt I had to come back here today.  And I don't really know what to say.  I will pray for the Haerlings as often as I think of you or them.  I pray that God will Bless everyone who thinks of you, and knows you as "a good friend".  And especially your parents, who never got to finish raising you.  Close

Happy Easter.  / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates (connected by angels )
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i miss you!  / Makenzie Harris (cousin)

hey trish i just want to say i mis you so much ans the memories i have and very prectious ilove you so much and next year you will be a senior (even thoug u already look like one) i think you are so beautiful and i wish i could hear you voice one more time i can remebe how you would say my name kind of like this MAKI!!!!!!!!!! i have a little box that your mom gave me and on t he insid it smells like you!i wish i could i could hear your you laugh or see your smile just onnce more every day is one less day i will be with out you miss you and love 4 ever more!!

Makenzie

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Always in my heart  / Michele Haerling (Sister)
Dearest Sister,

3 years and it seems just like yesterday that you were here laughing at a silly movie, hanging out in the gym, playing cards, singing in your room with the door closed (don't think we didn't hear you), and blessing us with your presence.  As the 29th got closer it got really hard to get out of bed, to smile, to laugh, and to move.  There is a huge hole in our hearts that belongs to you - and we know that part of our hearts is with you up in heaven.  We miss you so much.

As I am planning the wedding - I have you in my thoughts and in my heart.  You are going to be a huge part of the ceremony.  Here with us in spirit, but we really wish you were physically here with us.  It isn't going to be the same without you - but we know you will be with all of us.  Michael, Syd, and Elly are getting bigger and bigger - but they speak of you often.  We all do.

You are not forgotten little sister, you are so much a part of us.  More than ever.  There are times we are all sitting around together - and you can tell something is missing.  3 years ... but 3 years closer to seeing you again.  I can't wait to hug you, hear you, and be with you.  Please continue watching over us .... continue helping us ... continue giving us strength. 

I love you so much.  So, very, very much.

Love Always and Forever,
Michele Lynn
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Valentine / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates (connected by angels )
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Summary / Matthias Duoos (Friend of Nikki's )
Basically, what I'm trying to say below is...Patricia will always be missed, always be loved, and never be forgotten.  She knows this.  But don't let the loss of her bring you down.  I know that she would be upset if she was the cause of your depression.  I know it's hard.  I hardly knew her, and it's hard for me, and it may be hard to believe, but this is the way that God made me.  I care about good people, weather I know them or not.  But I'm not important, I'm just trying to give a new perspective from a different angle.  I hate seeing good people in a slump.  Especially people I care about.

So Please, whatever you do.  Especially those who were closest to her...

Think of her often, but not with a tear in your eye.  Think of her with a smile on your face and a good memory in your heart. 

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Why does losing friends and loved one have to hurt for so long?  / Matthias Duoos (Friend of Nikki's )
I can't say that I've lost a lot in my lifetime.  I lost a friend when I was 16, a girl I worked with in the summer.  And I lost a really good friend in the Army, he died from a road side bomb in Iraq 2 weeks before he was suppose to come back home.  And I hate hearing about soldiers dying in a country that Bush started a war with, while he makes millions off of his oil refinery company in Texas.  And Cheney makes millions off of his own war time security company that Bush put in Iraq.  Anyways, I'm getting side tracked. 

I hate losing friends, but what really bothers me the most is when a friend loses a friend, or worse, a loved one, or even worst of all, a sibling or a child or a parent.  I know it hurts to lose a loved one, especially someone you were very close with.  And it almost seems wrong to move on because you want them to know that they are missed and that, if at all possible, you would change the past. 

I've had near death experiences.  I've watched Mortars land a few hundred yards away.  I went to bed once only to be woke by an explosion because someone fired the .50 Cal Machine Gun inside our "Crack House" in Iraq.  And at anytime that death would pass near me, the only thing I wanted was for my friends to be safe.  After a while, my own life felt as if it had little value, and I was only there to protect my friends.

I know that if I died, I wouldn't want everyone to cry over me for years to come.  I would want to be remembered, but not lost.  I would hate for my death to become the downfall of those whom I loved.  I would hate to be the cause of someone else's depression.   But yet we, being human, want to be depressed because of a loss of a loved one.  We want to believe that our loved ones in heaven watch us daily (but only when we want them to) and can help us from above.  And who's to say that they can't.  We don't know what God may allow them to do from heaven.  However, it does not say anything in the Bible about earthly family coming together in heaven.  It says that we will get a new name and a new body.  But I can't say that it says that we won't be with our earthly families in heaven.  And I do hope that we will. 

If Patrica is watching over her family, and I sincerely hope that she is, even if God does not allow her affect anyone's life, I know that  she would be constantly asking God for favors and blessings on her family.  And maybe that's why she is there, maybe God brought her home early to watch over her family.  Maybe he decided that she was the right one.  But unfortunately, this kind of conclusion is a hard think of, and especially deal with.  Even if it is a gain in heaven, it is still a substantial loss here on Earth.  But the will of God will eventually be shown, and there aill be nothing but happiness and joy, and a new Jerusalem will be built.  And all will be well once again, even better than it were in the beginning.

Patricia will forever be a 14 year old Sister, Daughter, Cousin, Nephew, Aunt, and Friend.  She was a wonderful person, and loved by many.  And that is how she should be remembered.  The memory of her shouldn't bring depression, or sadness, or guilt.  It should bring Happiness, and joy.  Those whom got a chance to spend time with her should be happy about it.  She said she wanted to be remembered as "A good friend"...not a bad memory. 

As for me, I only have a few small memories of her.  I didn't know her, but I saw her at Nikki's basketball games.  She was 11 years old the last time I saw her, and she was playing with her friends in the High School Cafeteria  after a game.    So, trying to be happy in all my sorrow is kind of difficult.  But if you knew her personally, and your reading this...think happy thoughts...think fun thoughts...  Don't think of her as lost.  Think of her as "A Good Friend" Close

Not a day goes by that I don't miss you  / Jennifer Collins (Sister)
It has been three painful years since we've lost you and not a day goes by that I don't miss you or think about you.  Somehow three years seems the hardest.  So much going on that I know you would have been part of.  I love you very much and pray that you watch over Dad and Mom today, and everyday. Close

3 years tomorrow....  / Kim Harter (Friend)

Tomorrow will be 3 years since I have seen you. I truly miss you more than anything. This past weekend I was down at the gym for the aau girls basketball and Michael was there. Of course full of energy as always. He is growing quickly. Then I think of how much fun he would of had if you were there with us. It's still really hard for me to even believe that you're gone. It seems like yesterday you were here and now your gone. You have a special spot on my wall filled with pictures of you and I. On each side of a picture of you is little angels surrounding you. You are our angel in heaven looking down at us. Tomorrow I have a basketball game and I can just imagine you out there with us. Even though we can't see you, you will be out there playing with us. You will forever be in my heart and thoughts. I luv ya trish and I miss you so much!


Love always, 
Kim

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love / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates (connected by angels )
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Things that make a grown man cry  / Matthias Duoos (Friend of Nikki's )
I can't really say I was a friend to Patrica.  The most I ever saw of her was at Nikki's home basketball games. And I saw her there at every home game, usually helping out or playing with some of her friends. But it hurt me to find out about the accident in 2005. I was never real close with Nikki or any of her family, but I still cared about them. And it still hurts today to think of the loss their family suffered. Not only their Grandpa, but their youngest Sister and Daughter, Grandaughter, ect. It doesn't seem fair... I know God has his reasons but...I don't know...who am I to question God. I was stationed at Fort Sill, Oklahoma when I heard from Andrea Clark about the accident. All I could do at the time was send Nikki flowers. If I could have done more, believe me I would have. I just hate to think of the pain their family must go through every year on the 29th of January, and any other time they think of them. Which I'm sure is often. The Hearling family lost two family members. The town of Chelan lost a Basket Ball star and much more. But Heaven gained two new Angels. Close

blessings / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates (connected by angels )
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Wishing you and your family a  / Carole Mom To Angel Heather Bates
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Patricia, May you and your family...  / Carole Mom To Angel ~Heather Bates
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Happy Halloween!  / Carole Mom To Angel ~Heather Bates (angel friend )
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